ARTICLESTo avoid such relationships that jeopardize our psychological well-being, it is essential to set limits immediately.
Friends, family members or colleagues, those who have a toxic attitude towards us can be met in any place. At our place, at the workplace, or at the bar where we have coffee every day.
These individuals, often referred to as “toxic people ” (but an expression we will try to avoid to prevent any form of etiquette), can cause us significant pain or discomfort, usually have narcissistic traits and behavior that makes us feel guilty. impossible life. Being in contact with people with toxic behaviors can really put our health at risk.
What are the signals that should worry you?
It is not always clear whether our loved ones are toxic towards us or not, because we do not have enough perspective to realize it. Here are six signs that should alert you and can mean that you are living a toxic relationship.
Egocentrism
People with toxic behavior only talk about themselves, their lives and their experiences. They have no interest in listening to what others have to say, especially because of their lack of empathy. This is also why they have no qualms about using others to achieve their goals.
Pessimism
In general, people who engage in toxic behaviors can be very pessimistic and succeed in “infecting” others with their negativity. It is often said that this pessimism is immediately visible. In reality, it is more complex than that: they are often people who hide behind an apparent optimism, a positive facade but who, in reality, try to influence those around them with their negative thoughts.
Victimization
This is one of the classic characteristics of people with toxic behavior: they feel the eternal victims and use this to influence others. They are always victims of an event or misfortune, and often ask for help for that, but never do anything to get out of their situation. In doing so, they transmit this idea of constant victimization and this pessimism.
Emotional dependence
It is very difficult to get away from individuals who have toxic behavior because of their emotional dependence. They actually claim to force us to appreciate or love them, either through victimization or by insistence, or in some cases by anger. This behavior aims to escape others, but in a way that makes us dependent on them.
Envy
One of the characteristics of individuals with toxic behaviors that affect our self-esteem most is their desire. Since they do not have empathy and constantly feel victims of the world, they feel anger at those who are successful in achieving their goals. That’s why they talk negatively, and sometimes openly, about successful people.
The inconstancy
These people seem to have different personalities. For example, they may appear optimistic and pessimistic at the same time. These fluctuations in mood force their loved ones or colleagues to constantly satisfy them, giving them more power over us.
Of course, a person adopting toxic attitudes does not necessarily show all these characteristics, but it can happen that they occur simultaneously in some cases.
How to get out of a toxic relationship?
To prevent these people from compromising our psychological well-being, it is essential to set limits immediately, going as far as possible. In some cases, it will be possible to help the person take a path that will help him overcome his narcissism and his tendency to manipulate others.
The most recommended solution, however, is to move away if possible from the person and / or circumstances that cause us significant anxiety or discomfort. It is obviously possible to heal from a poisonous relationship, or toxic behavior if a partner desire it, but that does not mean that the victim of these behaviors must feel guilty and reflect on his own actions. On the other hand, she will have to reflect and work on the aspects of herself that lead her to engage in such a relationship.
It is important to try to find realistic, concrete and self-protective solutions, without thinking that we are the person who will succeed to save the other. This thought is indeed the one that prevents breaking a relationship of this kind, whether in love, family or friendship.
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