Marcia Weider said that, and she was right. Yet do
not confuse desire with expectation, or with need.
Desire has an entirely different quality to it.

You can
desire something without needing or requiring it.
That little difference makes everything work. That
little difference is the whole trick. Desire, do not
Require. To desire propels. To require compels. Life
will not be compelled, but it can be coaxed…
Whoever or whatever you are trying to compel today,
stop it. Just…fall back into the soft cotton of desire.

Neale Donald Walsch