Good Thursday! I hope you are well. :) I am writing from Santa Barbara, where I came to celebrate my birthday and the wedding of a friend. (Not to mention the very practical things I have to deal with.) I recently told you about the delicious feeling of community that has settled in my life …

You can see on the left three of the wonderful people who have contributed to it, with who I celebrated last Saturday. I have a very good imagination, but I can hardly imagine anything more magical than sharing a healthy meal with them. I offer you today a reflection inspired by a conversation with another very beautiful (too beautiful?) Person that I had the happiness to mix lately. I would not be surprised if you recognized it. I’m happy to meet you this morning … And I hope you find this text useful. ❤️ Do you sometimes feel overconfident or overly generous with others and pay the price? Perhaps you have just experienced a disappointment, or even to see your trust betrayed? Even if you give without waiting, it is painful to realize that a person takes advantage of our kindness, or receives crumbs after giving so much. One can judge oneself harshly for not having been more cautious. There are probably many people around you who see your natural momentum as a weakness. We talk to you about naivety, innocence, a bit too big a heart, and we encourage you to “harden” a little. And they are right, in part … You would certainly benefit from making sure your trust and devotion are earned. That said, this is even more true, in my opinion: that part of you that causes your suffering is also your greatest source of magic. The moment when one feels betrayed is painful, without contradiction … But what we forget, at this moment, is that this sincerity and this goodness which led us to give too much are a great source of joy all the other days of our life. Living in a state of love and openness is a bit like wearing a huge bouquet of flowers with us, wherever you go … Without even having to think about it, every moment of our life is enveloped in a delicious fragrance – a healthy, gentle energy that lifts us up and nourishes us. As spectacular as they are, the moments when we suffer are tiny, compared to the grace that lives in the background, and all the beautiful things it magnetizes. What do you think? When I delivered this message to a friend who had been recently scammed by a loved one, she said to me, “That’s right … In a way, this disappointment I’m experiencing is the “tax” that I pay to be an open and generous person “. That’s exactly it … It’s the tax we pay to be a citizen of our bright and magical universe with a delicate scent. So, if you’re having a disappointment, yes, make the adjustments you feel you have to make as much as possible … Make a big fence, if you have to. But I suggest you resist the temptation to make larger-than-life statements of failure and question yourself deeply. Because that part of you that is so fresh and innocent brings you so much. And yes, it’s a small weakness, but it’s your greatest strength too.

Marie