Winning someone’s heart is.
The setting aside of one’s integrity is not required to win
someone’s heart, but the setting aside of one’s anger
may be.

It is possible to make a point without making
an enemy. It is possible to be right without being
righteous. Debating does not have to be debasing.
If there is someone with whom you are disagreeing this
day, would it not be wonderful of you to disagree
without being disagreeable?

Neale Donald Walsch